Thursday, January 28, 2016

Thoughts on motherhood - the probabilistic approach.

She's there, 100% sure!

I didn' really start understanding thermodynamic and quantum chemistry until we got to the statistical thermodynamic, or statistical mechanic. Two of my not-so-favourite subjects, suddenly combined to bring clarity!
The keyword here being "statistical". All is based on probability.
And recalling this has helped me cope with one of the main frustrations I am experiencing in my motherhood journey.
For example. Does she sleep through the night? Yes, 90% of the time. Does she eat all her dinner? Yes, 95% of the time. Does she throw tantrums in public? No, 90% of the time.
So, when I am awake at 3a.m. because she decided this is a good time to play with her piano, I remind myself that this happen only 10% of the nights. I am still awake, but at least I keep my hopes up for next night.
And when she starts screaming at the mall, I remind myself that she is not even 2 years old, and she is allowed her 10% of tantrums. I am not happy, but I get some perspective!

Tuesday, January 26, 2016

Some thoughts on minimalism.

While I was on maternity leave (we are talking one and a half year ago), I started noticing that minimalism, although not a new concept, was gaining heat. Lead by a couple, or maybe only one, suddenly popular blogs, everybody was doing their attempt at minimalism. Suddenly, it was all about having x pieces in the closet. Why not x+1 or x-1 was the first question that came to my nerdy mind. Then, it was a sea of black white  and grey. I don't know if it was the peculiar set of blogs I was reading, or if the internet was really having a minimalist moment, but that was what appeared from my feed. My feed is now quite different, by the way.
Don't get me wrong. I think consuming less should be a general goal of the western world. Less food, less water, less resources, and less clothes, which are ending up in the landfill often because we are tired of them, not because they are useless.
But at least, this whole trend sparkled some reflections, and I decided to buy only items that I thought have a decent staying power, well made and if possible made from natural fibers. And this opens a whole other discussion, since often methods for bleaching cotton or exctracting rayon are not really nature-friendly, but I had to start somewhere.
I started to try wearing all I have in my closet.

One of my main problems with this whole shift of behavior is that a lot of the clothes I can buy have a very short lasting time. Often they last one season only. But often I just can't afford better made ones right when I need them: I need to plan and save for my most expensive purchases. I wear my clothes heavily, I have a small child who often likes to clean her mouth on my shoulder, so my clothes need to be washed more often than they did before baby.
I know this is a very "first world problem". I have clothes, I have the means to buy new ones (even if I don't always want to), there is nothing really to complain. Maybe I am just longing for the " old days" when things were expected to last a few years. 
No conclusions here, just some ramblings.

Above is an old picture(2011) of my coat. I hope it will last me some more years. I still have the bag and the boots, too!

Saturday, January 23, 2016

Stuff. And some 70s love.

Hi. Is anybody out there?
I haven't updated for a while, mainly for lack of time. But then, while looking at old blog posts in search of a couple of images, I missed documenting my life (and my outfits).
So, maybe I'll give it a try again...

What to say? Well, let's talk about fashion first!
My passion for 70s era has not faded at all - actually, it's stronger than ever.
I had a huge, 2-days closet purge at the beginning of the year, and kept only the things I really love. While purging, I found a couple of bags I haven't used for a while. Here they are:

This is a bag my sister bought during a trip in northern Africa, I think it was Tunisia but it could be Morocco too. I love the small decoration all around and the black detail. It's a bit small for day-to-day wear, but I'll start using it in the weekend.

This is a hand-me-down from my mom. She bought it in 197something. I had it taken care of by a cobbler, mainly to soften the old leather a bit. BTW, my MIL swears by cleaning leather with face cleansing milk from time to time to keep it soft. She does it on her couches. I'll try with my bags. Now let's talk about that fantastic red dress I gave away... Let's have a moment to regret.

This is a cross body bag I bought in Buffalo during some black Friday sale. I should try the cleansing milk trick on her, and start using it more often.
Now, let's talk about new entries:

Images source

Both dresses are from Oltre. The first one was chosen by the little girl (I guess she liked the color). The second by me. Both are very 70s, and I can't wait to wear them!


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