Sunday, February 27, 2011

Again on discipline.

After writing this post on the importance (or not) of discipline, I found this article (via Gala Darling), very interesting and very true. I even wrote a letter to the director of Gioia, the magazine where I first read about Amy Chua, mentioning both the NY Times article and my post, and she was kind enough to publish my letter on the magazine.
So, I got a comment from a lovely reader. She writes in italian, so let me synthetize it for non-italian speakers: she agrees with what I said, and writes she found herself more or less in the same situation after getting her degree. She reflects on the fact that her colleagues who were less brilliant school-wise, but have good networking skills, have had more succes than her in their careers. She is very "matter of fact", and did not write in a complaining tone: it's the voice of someone who just recognized how things work.

I would really love to hear from people coming from other Countries. I wrote what I think about Italy, where hard work takes longer to pay back than networking skills, and I have seen how in the US networking has its importance, but as much as hard work and good skills in one's field.

What happens in the rest of EU? In Asia? I am inclined to think hard work is mostly rewarded, but I'd like to hear the experiences of people from abroad.

Saturday, February 26, 2011

Link Love!

I've got a small list this week, but these are very very good posts! Here you go.

  • Fabulously Broke invites you to shop for clothes like a man. I agree on most of what she says, but I think it is important to look for clothes that flatter one's body too. I mean, if the flat front pants look better on me than the pleated, I am going straight to the flat-front-pants rack, without even considering the other ones. But I do find men more "pragmatic" when buying clothes: they go, look for what they need, try it on, and get out of the store as soon as they have paid. I am trying to be more like this... Thoughts?
  • From the Simply Luxurious Life: an invite to work hard, and end-of-the-month financial celebration.
  • How to seduce, from Fiona at How to be chic - notes on a magazine article.
  • The Daily Connoisseur is continuing her series on her 10 items wardrobe, with her observations, and the extras (I am planning to buy an awesome trench coat too!)
Have a wonderful weekend!

Friday, February 25, 2011

A couple of outfits...

Sweater - Ruggiero
Jeans - OVS Industry
Boots - Refresh
Necklace - Target

Sorry for the lack of outfit posts, lately, but I was always so late in the morning, and so tired when I'd come home at night, that I didn't have chance to take pictures every day. This is Tuesday outfit ( I wore jeans to go play with the band after work.
It's a pretty basic and comfortable outfit. I didn't like it much while wearing it, but looking at the pictures, I think it's a good one. This is something that often happens to me, and the main reason I take outfit pictures: to see what is really working.

Sweater - Conbipel
Skirt - Promod
Grey tights - Calzedonia
Boots - Refresh

This is my French Friday outfit. The color combination is one I really love, and I like to add a pop of color with a bag or some ear studs (as today). I love love love this skirt, it has such a ballerina feel... I feel pretty every time I wear it.

And now, just for your pleasure, here's a picture my boss took of me after seeing the results of some test on a product:

No need to add more, right?

Monday, February 21, 2011

Monday outfit.

Wrap sweater - UC Benetton
Turtleneck - random street stand
Skirt - Conbipel
Boots - Campanile
 Necklace - Steph's mom

I am so bored with my winter wardrobe, because, as you might have noticed, it's not too extended, and I don't know what to remix anymore! This is a combination of a skirt and a sweater you have already seen... Looking at the picture, I can say I quite like it. I like the feel of this wrap sweater  (it's cache coeur in italian, we use french words, which mean something like - heart hider? but it's more romantic in french!). It looks to me like a wrap a ballerina might have worn for years.

Now the answer to the question Caroline aske me in a comment: the foundation is Essence, number 2, and the lipgloss is Fleur's, number 124. I think both are brands professionals use. I got a nice deal on the lipgloss because it was one of the last ones.
I am happy to report that my skin didn't look better on Saturday only (the day I had the facial), but still feels very nice, in spite of my 12-hours work day! And right now I am using the face moisturizers I was using before too - so it must be the effect of all the treatments the girl put on my face, plus the face massage.

Sunday, February 20, 2011

Saturday, February 19, 2011

Saturday outfit

Sweater - Project for Upim
Jeans - OVS
Boots - Frau
Necklace - Steph's mom
Well... this is not my Saturday night outfit (I changed to go to dinner with some friends), but I wore it to run some errands and go get a facial. That's why it's just a comfortable outfit with nothing special. The shot was taken after the facial. I loved what the girl did to my face, and she applied makeup at the end!!! Here are more detailed pictures of my face:

Sorry I look weird in the second picture, but I was trying hard not to laugh. She applied foundation so well that my skin looks perfect - without seeming too made up. I loved the color of the lip gloss so much that I bought one, and I like that my make up looks polished but not too heavy.

Lovely links.

Sorry I didn't post my weekly links last Saturday... I'll make it up to you all today, with two weeks worth of awesome posts!
  • From the Simply Luxurious Life (I might as well just post the link to the site, and tell you to go read everything she writes!): on the importance of focus, why not... watch less television (yes, yes! I have stopped watching TV when I left my ex-bf's place, and never looked back), an ode to patience, and learning in order to attain financial wealth. Plus, a guest post on how to incorporate luxury in your wardrobe. I practice all of her suggestions, and I can witness that these little tweaks really add something to everyday life.
  • Rebekah at Cupcake Caramel wrote a series of posts on quality versus quantity. Check out part one, two and three, the conclusion, and some thoughts on wardrobe investing compared to equities investing. I admit her approach may be a little too structured for someone, but I like the idea of painstakingly planning and working towards buying what we really want.
  • Simple (very simple) ways to eat better. I have yet to incorporate all of these suggestions, but I am working on it. The only one I don't agree on is #6 (don't clean your plate - stop eating when you are full). I hate to waste food. I find it extremely disrespectful for all the bounty we are lucky to have. I think the best thing to do is to just put half of what we think we want to eat in our plate - then take more only if we really need/want to. This way, whatever is left over doesn't go to waste.
  • A cute guide for living in 2011.
  • Have to vs. Want to - a huge difference! An invite to mind your words.
What did you love on the web this week?

Friday, February 18, 2011

Friday outfit.

Dress - Pennyblack
Black shirt - Intimissimi
Arm warmers - Lunatica
Tights - Calzedonia
Boots - Nero Giardini
Necklace - Target

Sorry for the lack of posts, but I have been wearing outfits I have already showed...
Today it's supposed to be French Friday. I would love to be like Rebekah at Cupcake Caramel, who spends her Fridays the chicest way ever possible, but my days are all so hectic and busy, that I often come home later than I should, not being able to do anything special... I whish I was able to take things with more calm.
Today, though, after getting out of work and going grocery shopping, I set a nice dinner (with Modica chocolate as dessert...), and in an hour I am going out.

Back to this outfit. I fell in love with this dress when I first saw it, while shopping the sales with my mom. It was 30% off. She mentioned that after a couple of weeks, she was sure they'd have the dress 50% off. I went back a couple of weeks later, and it was! There were two dresses left, and the salesgirl had to take off mine from the mannequin...
It's a very classic black dress with an interesting neckline. I bet I can wear it without the shirt underneath, with some nice cardi/blazer on...

Monday, February 14, 2011

Monday outfit.

Sweater - Lunatica
Arm warmers - Lunatica
Black shirt - Intimissimi
Skirt - UC Benetton
Belt - Sandro Ferrone
Boots - Nero Giardini

Today it is also Valentine's day, so I wanted to wear something sweet - and a bow was sweet enough for me. I like this outfit, I find it very chic and streamlined. My colleagues, though, said I was very elegant. Am I? Well, better to be overdressed than underdressed, isn't it?
The belt was added at the very last minute, bacause the sweater made a too long line. I think it works well. it comes from one of my dresses.
To soften a bit the "drama" of this outfit, I wore my animalier bag (and my black coat, of course - still cold here!). I find it so much fun:

Happy Valentine's day to everybody!!!

Sunday, February 13, 2011

Sunday Best!


I am participating in Nina's Sunday Best (check it out: it's a very cool idea!) with Friday's outfit. What do you think?

Song of the Day!

Saturday, February 12, 2011

My outfit: Saturday

Sweater - Ruggiero
Skirt - Klixs
Tights - Calzedonia
Boots - Campanile
Necklace - Target

Wore this to run some errands, pick up a book and go get a massage (best 45 € ever spent!!!). It's basically the same outfit I wore here, with different tights and boots. Being a bit under the weather, I wanted something extremely colorful and happy.

Friday, February 11, 2011

Friday outfit.

Turtleneck - Tezenis
Cardigan - Lunatica
Skirt - Conbipel
Boots - Nero Giardini
Necklace - Steph's mom

This is today's French Friday outfit. I like because it is very simple but interesting - plus, it contains all the purple shades I love.
The work day was all but chic, it was about 10 hours long, and I didn't even seem to find time to sit down for a minute. Plus, something that was reported to me right before leaving caused me a mini-meltdown in my car. I am still extremely frustrated, which together with my tiredness is giving me a bad headache.
Oh well.
I have a massage scheduled for tomorrow, plus some fun this weekendd with friends. I really hope I'll be able tor echarge before Monday...

Thursday, February 10, 2011

My outfit: Thursday

Dress - Sandro Ferrone
Boots - Campanile
Necklace - Steph's mom

Not that different from Tuesay's outfit - only, this is another dress. it's the first time I wear it, and it has a very interesting neckline. Too bad I forgot to take a picture of it, and of the pattern - next time!
I wasn't angry, even if my face says the opposite. I should try to smile while taking pics...

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Tuesday outfit.

Dress- Sandro Ferrone
Tights - Calzedonia
Boots - Nero Giardini
Necklace - Steph's mom

A really no-fuss outfit - well, actually all the ones that include dresses are no-fuss.
This is one of my last additions to the dress collection. It's my favourite color, violet, and I like the print. Here's a detail:

Monday, February 7, 2011

Monday ourfit.

Sorry for the lack of posts of these last days... I was feeling a bit under the weather, and I didn't take outfit pictures (besides, a couple of them were just repeats).
Here's today's outfit:

Wrap sweater - UC Benetton
Turtleneck - Random street vendor
Skirt - UC Benetton
Boots - Nero Giardini
Necklace - Steph's mom

This was quite an improptu outfit - I had planned to wear another sweater, but I didn't like how it looked with this skirt. So, I pulled out this one. I have had it for a couple of years, and I tend not to wear it for some strange reasons. It tends to need to be adjusted during the day, but it actually didn't give me any problems worn with the pencil skirt - probably it's when it's worn with jeans that it tends to creep up.
I am promising to myself to wear it more often. It'll look nice with my other skirts too!
This is the only pencil skirt I own. I like it because it makes me feel very feminine, and when in a store I now tend to check out other pencil skirts too. But I am wandering if I really need another one... I don't wear it that often.

And yes: I cut my hair on Saturday. The more I get used to it, the more I like it. I am planning on coloring them soon, too!

On another note: after lovely Tatjana left me a comment on this sweater, calling it a sweatshirt, it came to me that, indeed, it looks like a sweatshirt. It's not. But I don't really like it, so away it goes, to free some space for the clothes I love. I gave away four other sweaters too, mailty because they were too big an dind't look flattering on me. I like to see in my wardrobe and in my drawers only stuff I love, wear, and that makes me feel beautiful (more or less...)

Saturday, February 5, 2011


While reading one of my magazines (Gioia, to be specific), I came across a little article about Amy Chua, who also released a book. I understand she is more known in the US than here in Italy, and from the short article her ideas come across as very controversial.

Basically, her daughters have to study piano 7 hours a day, without interruption. They are not allowed sleepovers at friend’s houses, nor to have less than excellent scores at school. The logic behind it, is that Amy Chua wants to prepare her daughters for the toughness of the real world. She is not much concerned about her daughters’ happiness, she wants them to be ready to their future.

I have been thinking about this “educational method” for the last couple of days. Please note, I am not a mother, so my opinions can miss some points.

I am all about discipline. I am a very disciplined person in all that I think is important. I was brought up this way – sometimes I joke I grew up in a lager. No way I could sleep late on Sundays, nor nap in the afternoon. TV was allowed 30 minutes a day, when I was a child. My extracurricular activities (music lessons and sport) were allowed as long as I had high grades at school.

Although I am really grateful to my parents for all the opportunities they gave me this way, and for teaching me the importance of self-discipline, I have found that I lack an extremely important skill: the ability to network. And, here in Italy, this is something extremely more important that the degrees one can earn, the number of languages one speaks, the books he/she has read. Painful, I know, but that’s the way it is. I had huge difficulties in finding a job, because I didn’t know anyone who could alert me about so-and-so looking for a chemist, or who could put me in touch with someone who needed me.

Of course, now that I have a job, my degrees and skills are greatly appreciated. But maybe if I had spent one less day a week studying and one more going out with friends, things would have been easier.

Link Love.

Some posts I enjoyed reading this week...
  • From the always surprising The SImply Luxurious Life, two really great posts: one on the importance of every little step we take towards our dreams (as opposed to wanting everything now!), the other, the third installment on taking control of our spending.
  • The Daily Connoisseur shares the last of the top 20 things she learned when living in Paris. What else, if not living passionately?
  • The Key to Manufacturing Magnificence. I don't want to say anything, I'd spoil it. Go and read it. NOW!
  • Angie launches a question: What does it mean to dress in a feminine way? For me, it is mainly attention to the details. You?
  • I could have written this. It's when we don't allow our body to rest when it needs it, that it stops us right there! I have just experienced it!
  • Megan at Charade wrote also this post on picking your luxuries over at Yes and Yes. Go check it out!

Thursday, February 3, 2011

My outfit: Tuesday.

Sweater - Lunatica
Black tee - Intimissimi
Arm warmers - Lunatica
Jeans - OVS Industry
Boots - Refresh
Necklace - Target

Didn't take a picture of today's outfit because I was running late this morning, but here's yesterday's.
I like the color, the shirred sleeves and the bow of this sweater. It's sweet but not too cute, if I make any sense. I bought the arm warmers a couple of weeks after buying the sweater, at the same store, because I didn't really know how to weat it without them - a cardi would hide the bow, and that'd be a shame. Here is a detail:

I like wearing this sweater with those jeans, because they "toughen it up" a little...

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Two outfits.

Sweater - Random store
Jeans - Diesel
Booties - Fiorucci
Pretty simple and casual outfit. I like both the color and the 80s vibe of the sweater, both for the dolman sleeves and the neckline. The only downside is that I can’t think of any kind of necklaces that would look good with it.

Dress - Sandro Ferrone
Turtleneck - Tezenis
Boots - Campanile

This is my “Mondrian dress”! It’s a 60’s style dress which I bought a couple of years ago and am still very happy to wear. The combination of pink and violet is one of my favourites.


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